How do we bring cognizance to ourselves of what someone’s true character is and what is them in a period of growth?
We meet people and we instantly create an opinion of them. We quickly analyze how they reflect who they are onto others and onto us. We analyze their appearance, their mannerisms and their attitude. We pay attention to how they make us feel and how their energy blends with ours. And then, after breaking them down piece by piece in our heads, we create our idea of who they are.
We have now glued together this idea of who they are without even understanding them entirely or giving them the opportunity to unravel themselves to us.
and here comes the plot twist! —what if we’re meeting someone in a new era of their self growth. They’re experiencing this new stage of life and (hopefully trying) to figure out who they are in it. fast forward to the future, when they begin to shape themselves in front of us, we might struggle to fully connect and trust because of the series of thoughts that we had established on our own prior to experiencing them entirely. after all, We can’t just forget the idea of them that we created because we created it off of our (short) experience that we considered enough to be factual. right?? Only time can prove us otherwise.
but be mindful. No phase of growth happens overnight. It’s a process. And it sucks for people that don’t think about that. They don’t see everyone as an ever growing work of art. By seeing potential in someone when you meet them rather than creating an idea of them, you create this opportunity to play a significant role in someone's journey. — and who knows. they might open you up to a journey of your own.
but, if you don't allow yourself to accept that role then you risk missing out on a learning experience for you and a learning experience for them. You could also be missing out on a great person.
so whether you are the person in a period of new self growth or you are meeting someone in that period, keep in mind that Being in a phase of growth isn't an excuse to give people less than who you are (capable of being). Always radiate positivity.